Going through divorce with children is difficult. However, finalizing the custodial Arrangements can be one of the most frustrating aspects of the process.

Most parents want to work together to ensure that their children have a stable, loving environment to grow in. Some families, in the face of divorce, decide that a nesting relationship is the best for the children. A nesting living situation involves the children staying in one residence while the parents cycle in and out like parental birds with babies in a nest, says Psychology Today.

How is this beneficial?

Nesting is often a very helpful arrangement in the first stages of a divorce. It is likely that you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse want space from each other, and nesting will allow you to get the space you need while keeping the living situation stable for your children. During the early stages of divorce when you are making plans about what comes next, nesting is a good stopgap measure.

Nesting can also be helpful as a longer-term Arrangement if your family lives in an expensive area. In many cases, parents may not be able to support single households in a pricey city. Nesting can allow the family unit to remain where it is.

Where do the parents live?

There are many arrangements for what the parent who is not “on-duty” does when he or she is not in the family house. In some situations, the “off-duty” parent will live with friends or other family. This is most typical in short term arrangements.

If the parents decide that nesting is a favorable long-term arrangement, then many decide to rent a separate apartment for the “off-duty” parent to live in.